Starring in What To Expect When You’re Expecting, Jennifer Lopez, 42, single mother of four-year-old twins Max and Emme, talks about giving birth in real life, straddling an A-list career in television, movies, and music, and possibly adopting in the future.
It’s been a very busy year for you with American Idol, this movie, the tour… What does that all feel like?
It feels good. I’m a little bit tired right now; I’ve been rehearsing, doing the movie, promoting Idol, taking care of my kids, but somehow I really fell in the zone and I feel good about everything. I feel everything is going so well, and I feel really blessed. I do.
Jennifer, after these beautiful scenes in the movie about adoption, would you consider it for yourself?
It’s funny because before the movie, I never really thought about adoption at all – I just wanted to have my own baby and I was so focused on that, especially because it took me a while to have my own. But after the film and during the making of the film when I held those two little Ethiopian twins, I fell in love instantly and it occurred to how others can do this; how it is so easy to embrace a child who has nothing. It’s a really beautiful, selfless act of love, and it’s something that you think “Okay, I understand these feelings, I get this, I know how this happens”.
Your kids are a little older now. Did the movie make you want to have more kids?
Yes, it would be a blessing, but right now I’m just focused on doing it right with those two, as I’ve got my hands full with them (laughs).
Any advice for women expecting?
I don’t like to give out any advice on personal things. I don’t feel like I’m an expert on anything; I am learning as I go.
What are the biggest misconceptions that you have in regards to pregnancy and motherhood?
Your nose gets big, huge in fact. Everybody’s nose blows up and it’s the weirdest thing.
Jennifer, what did you learn from reading the What to Expect When You’re Expecting book?
Well, I found the book to be so incredibly accurate while I was pregnant and I just see why everybody has this book and why it’s the first thing that you get when you find out that you’re pregnant. When you get pregnant, it’s the type of thing that everybody’s talked about your whole life, but you know nothing about. And, this book helps you to not freak out.
The men have a big role in this movie. Did you speak with a lot of them?
With the Dad’s group, I thought it was pretty genius and something that involved fathers really need. Even good Dads need other Dads to help them through, because it is its own thing and I thought that was a great addition to this type of movie.
Jennifer, between American Idol and your tour and the movie, what is your philosophy as a single working mother, and how are you so successful?
Well, first, all you do really care about is not messing up the baby part. I just want them to be okay, and so that comes first for me and then everything else falls into line after that. That’s my philosophy, so as long as that is working in the right way, then I can dedicate whatever time I need to dedicate to my career. And I just take it one day at a time. I have a lot of help and I have a lot of great people in my life who help in all those areas in work. At home, I have a great family, so all together we do it; it really takes a village. So you know, it’s just a juggling act and you do the best you can and say no when you have to say no.
"I just take it one day at a time. I have a lot of help and I have a lot of great people in my life who help in all those areas in work. At home, I have a great family, so all together we do it; it really takes a village. So you know, it’s just a juggling act and you do the best you can and say no when you have to say no."
During your pregnancy, what scared you the most or surprised you the most?
My feet grew a size. I was thinking “What am I going to do with all these great shoes?” But as far as what scared me, I had a real ideal pregnancy. I was on tour until I was six and a half months pregnant and I didn’t really blow up until I was eight and a half months along. Then came the huge nose, the ankles, the whole ugly thing, but I wasn’t really scared. I remember having one moment of panic sitting in the living room, just sitting there, and I think it just hit me that I was going to be responsible for two other human beings, and just for one second, just for a wave, I was scared and then it went away. But it’s totally worth it. You know when you have kids, they just bring so much joy and happiness to your life; they just bring you right back down to earth.
Watching you in a romantic comedy is a bit like watching you dance. There’s something that’s very natural for you, very comfortable. At what point in your career did you realize it comes easy to you?
I think from very early in my career I have always loved romantic comedies. I’m a bit of a romantic – I don’t know if you’ve noticed – and I am a little bit funny, maybe you haven’t noticed. But I just love romantic comedies, I always have. I just love them, I love them. I love the romance, I love the family, I love all of it, and it does, it comes super natural to me, I don’t know why. It just does. It’s just who I am.
Do you have a favorite of all time?
Of course. When Harry Met Sally.
Jennifer, have you signed on for next year’s American Idol?
I have not signed on yet, no.
But you are going to do it?
I’m not sure.
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