Today, Savoir Flair’s 10 Things I Learned About Being a Mother interview series comes to an end – as all good things do – and we’re doing so on a high note with Emirati “It” girl turned designer Latifa Al Shamsi. Scroll through as the avid accessories collector gives practical motherhood advice and shares what she has learned from her experiences with her most precious gem.
It’s all worth it.
The sleepless nights and the fact that there is a human being who is completely relying on me has made me more patient – you need to have an infinite reserve of patience. Yes, you will be tested. Yes, there will be times when you think you’re on the edge of losing your sanity, but somehow you realize it is all worth it.
You can do it all, but you don't have to.
I’m one of those people who likes to do everything from A to Z on my own, and to make sure it is done perfectly. Being a mother, I have learnt that I can do it all but I don’t have to, and that it is absolutely okay to ask for help now and then.
Don’t worry about what other people think of you. Don’t compare your inside to everyone else’s outside. Live your life in a way that makes you happy. You know the old saying, “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”? It’s true.
Doctors first, internet later.
Never, ever research medical conditions on the internet before talking to an actual doctor – no mother needs that kind of drama.
Get a family car.
Your car will never be clean for the next 20 years, so there is no point in buying a fancy car.
Say “I love you” more often.
I couldn’t believe that a tiny being could make me express love more verbally than I did before… a 100 times more than I did before. Love, hugs, and cuddles will not spoil them. It will make them grow knowing that they have been loved and will always be loved, no matter what.
They are not you, and you are not them.
I have learnt to separate their experiences from mine. I am not them, therefore, my experiences are different. I could learn from what is relevant to me and my family – and the rest? I just consider it enjoyable mommy gossip.
Your priorities will change.
Priorities change, but at the end of the day, I’m still the same person navigating through the waters of those shifting priorities.
It is okay to pamper yourself once in a while and go out on a date with the hubby – I’m talking about a kid-free date, of course. Love your body and love who you are now because what you have gone through is a miracle.
Go with your instinct.
No matter what others tell you, always, always, always go with your instinct and let go of any and every expectation because trust me: you are in for a ride.